Speaking Up for Myself · How I’m Wired
How you share your views, needs and wishes, including asking for help, setting boundaries and explaining what works for you.
20 statements, about 7 minutes. For each one, pick “That’s me”, “Sometimes” or “Not really”. Free, and not a diagnosis. At the end you get feedback in words: your strengths, what can feel harder, what helps you and ideas to try.
Strengths
- I know which situations or places drain my energy.
- I can name things I’m good at.
- I know which changes or adjustments make things easier for me.
- I can explain to other people how I experience things.
- I ask for help, or for things to be explained again, when I need it.
- I can share with someone safe when my needs aren’t being met.
- I can explain what’s going on for me to a GP or health professional.
- I feel able to ask for changes at appointments, like a quieter place to wait or notes in writing.
- I feel able to ask for adjustments at work or where I study.
- I can explain to a manager or tutor how I work best.
- I know where to go for formal support, such as HR, Occupational Health or Access to Work.
What can feel harder
- Saying no feels hard, even when I don’t have the energy.
- I find it hard to speak up when something makes me uncomfortable.
- I go along with things that don’t always suit me - or I like, to avoid a fuss.
- Booking or going to health appointments on my own feels hard.
- I find it hard to push back when a workload or deadline is too much.
What helps
- Having words ready in a format that is easy for me before a hard conversation.
- Asking for things in writing rather than face to face.
- Bringing someone I trust to important meetings or appointments.
- Having time to think before I give an answer.