# Glad We Talked® > Glad We Talked® helps neurodivergent people, and the families, educators, workplaces and practitioners around them, understand the nervous system and communicate with more ease. Its main offer is Finding My Steady with Glad We Talked®, a five-module, self-paced online programme that uses creativity and practical brain–body tools. Alongside it is The Steady Club, a monthly membership with live calls and a replay library. Both are psychoeducation, not therapy. Separately, it offers one-to-one counselling, couples counselling and mentoring. No diagnosis is needed. Based in the UK. It does not offer crisis support: see the crisis support page. Key ideas: nervous-system states, co-regulation, rejection sensitivity, the R.U.D Process® and the What’s My State?® check-in. ## Resources we post Hands-on tools for teens and the adults around them. Free UK postage. - [What's My State?™ Toolbag](https://gladwetalked.com/product/resources/whats-my-state-toolbag): From £29.99 — Polyvagal-informed picture cards and track board to help teens understand behaviours, name feelings and spot their state. £29.99, free UK postage. ## Programmes - [Finding My Steady - Families and Parents](https://gladwetalked.com/product/course/finding-my-steady-families-and-parents): From £229 — Less shouting, arguing and miscommunication at home: a gentle, nervous-system approach for parents, caregivers, kinship carers and blended families. - [The Steady Club](https://gladwetalked.com/steady-club): £49.99/month — Steady Club membership: selected courses and members-only live sessions. - [Finding My Steady - For Emerging Adults & Students](https://gladwetalked.com/product/course/finding-my-steady-with-glad-we-talked-emerging-adults-students): From £999.99 — A licensed programme for emerging adults and students, aged 16 to 25 - [Finding My Steady - For Adulting and Intimate Relationships](https://gladwetalked.com/product/course/finding-my-steady-for-adulting-and-intimate-relationships): From £269.99 — Find more supportive ways to navigate difficult conversations, misunderstandings, changing needs and moments of disconnection together. - [Finding My Steady - For In The Workplace](https://gladwetalked.com/product/course/finding-my-steady-for-in-the-workplace): From £999.99 — Develop a shared language for overwhelm, communication needs, boundaries and repair—while creating healthier and more neuroinclusive working relationships. - [Finding My Steady - For Educators](https://gladwetalked.com/product/course/finding-my-steady-for-educators): From £995 — Trauma-informed and beyond: CPD for everyone who works in a school, with polyvagal insights, live calls and a certificate. - [Finding My Steady - For Mental Health and Wellbeing Practitioners](https://gladwetalked.com/product/course/finding-my-steady-for-mental-health-and-wellbeing-practitioners): From £999 — Bring nervous-system-first understanding into your practice and support communication when emotions feel overwhelming or words are difficult to find. ## Key pages - [Home](https://gladwetalked.com/) - [Glad We Talked® for Practitioners and Organisations](https://gladwetalked.com/for-organisations): Explore Finding My Steady programme access, resources and bespoke training for practitioners, schools, organisations and NHS services. - [Create](https://gladwetalked.com/shop/create) - [One-to-One Support](https://gladwetalked.com/one-to-one-support) - [Educators](https://gladwetalked.com/shop/educators) - [Is Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria Causing You Stress?](https://gladwetalked.com/is-rejection-sensitivity-dysphoria-causing-you-stress) - [Emotionally Healthy Lives](https://gladwetalked.com/shop/emotionally-healthy-lives) - [About](https://gladwetalked.com/about) - [Become a Doer](https://gladwetalked.com/become-a-doer) - [Creative Spotlight](https://gladwetalked.com/creative-spotlight) - [The Steady Club](https://gladwetalked.com/steady-club): A monthly practice community for sensitive souls, built on the R.U.D. Process®. 4 live sessions a month. Not a course, not therapy — a place to practise getting steadier, together. - [Training & Talks](https://gladwetalked.com/bespoke-training): Bespoke training, workshops and talks on nervous-system responses, neurodivergence and communication for practitioners, schools, NHS teams and organisations. - [Social Value](https://gladwetalked.com/social-value) - [About Finding My Steady](https://gladwetalked.com/about-finding-my-steady): A practical, neuroinclusive programme to understand your nervous system, communicate your needs and find a steadier way to connect. - [The R.U.D Process®](https://gladwetalked.com/the-rud-process): A 3-step awareness tool to notice what's happening inside you and build stronger family connections. - [Gladisum](https://gladwetalked.com/gladisum): Gladisum is a mind-body framework for the movement from holding to release and relief. Expression as release. The exhale, made practical. - [Free resources](https://gladwetalked.com/free-resources): Free guides, downloads and programmes. - [FAQs](https://gladwetalked.com/faq): 30 answers about the programmes and how support works. - [Contact](https://gladwetalked.com/contact) - [Crisis support](https://gladwetalked.com/crisis-support): Glad We Talked® does not offer crisis support. This page lists free UK helplines. ## Articles - [A Short Guide to Therapy: What It Is, Who It's For and How to Start](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/short-guide-to-therapy): What therapy and creative counselling are, who they help and how to start. Online counselling across the UK and internationally for neurodivergent, multi-heritage and mixed-faith clients. - [How Do I Know What Support I Need? Resources, Courses, Memberships or One-to-One Therapy](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/what-support-do-i-need): Not sure where to start? Compare free resources, self-paced courses, memberships and one-to-one counselling, and find the right level of support for you. - [How to Communicate Your Needs When You're Neurodivergent](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/communicate-your-needs-neurodivergent): Practical ways for autistic, ADHD and neurodivergent adults to understand and communicate their needs to partners, family and work, plus how counselling can help. - [Why moving helps: a polyvagal-informed way for teens to talk about feelings](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/why-moving-helps-teens-talk-about-feelings): Five reasons a track board helps teens understand behaviours and talk about feelings, plus a simple 10-minute way to try it. Polyvagal-informed. - [What Happens in Your First Counselling Session?](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/first-counselling-session): What to expect in your first counselling session online: booking, what we talk about, questions to ask, and how you might feel afterwards. - [Emotion cards for teenagers: 7 ways to use feelings cards at home, school and in sessions](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/emotion-cards-for-teenagers-ways-to-use-feelings-cards): Seven simple ways to use emotion cards with teenagers. Feelings card ideas for parents, teachers and practitioners, with a polyvagal-informed twist. - [Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar selected to present two research posters at Polyvagal Institute Gathering in Sitges](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/yasmin-shaheen-zaffar-polyvagal-institute-sitges-posters): Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar was selected to present R.U.D Process® and What’s My State? posters at the 2026 Polyvagal Institute Gathering in Sitges. - [Before We Call It Behaviour](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/before-we-call-it-behaviour): Before We Call It Behaviour Children of colour, mixed-heritage identity, childhood trauma and those whose nervous-system state gets misunderstood A child… - [Always Chosen, Never Choosing](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/always-chosen-never-choosing): Explore agency, resentment and belonging in neurodivergent, mixed-heritage and blended-family relationships through the R.U.D Process®. - [When Nervous Systems Collide at Home](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/when-nervous-systems-collide-at-home): Looking beyond blame in children, teenagers and family relationships: noticing nervous-system patterns, taking responsibility and making repair possible. - [When Nervous Systems Collide](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/when-nervous-systems-collide): When both people wait to be chosen: exploring rejection sensitivity, unspoken needs and steadier communication through the R.U.D Process®. - [Beyond “How Do You Feel?”](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/beyond-how-do-you-feel): How the R.U.D Process® and What’s My State?® help us understand what is happening when words disappear — born from lived experience, clinical practice and work with neurodivergent people and families. - [The Person Who Says Less May Not Feel Less](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/the-person-who-says-less-may-not-feel-less): Rejection sensitivity, freeze and the R.U.D Process® through a neurodivergent, mixed-heritage and third-culture-kid (TCK) lens - [Do I Need an ADHD or Autism Diagnosis to Get Therapy?](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/do-i-need-a-diagnosis-for-therapy): You don't need an ADHD or autism diagnosis to get therapy. Online neurodivergent-affirming support while you wonder, wait or self-identify. UK and international. - [Polyvagal-informed activities for young people: using cards and movement in sessions](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/polyvagal-informed-activities-for-young-people-in-sessions): Practical polyvagal-informed activities for counsellors, therapists and youth workers. Use picture cards and a track board in sessions with teens. - [How to Choose a Counsellor: 10 Questions to Ask Before You Book](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/how-to-choose-a-counsellor): How to choose the right counsellor in the UK: 10 questions to ask about training, approach, fees and whether they understand your identity, culture and neurotype. - [Rejection Sensitivity and Neuroception: What If Your Radar Sharpened for a Reason?](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/rejection-sensitivity-nervous-system): Why does rejection feel so intense? Explore rejection sensitivity, neuroception, trauma, uncertainty and how your nervous system responds to safety and threat. - [Neurodivergent-Affirming Therapy: Support Before, During or After Diagnosis](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/neurodivergent-affirming-therapy): Online neurodivergent-affirming counselling across the UK and internationally for autistic, ADHD, AuDHD and dyslexic adults, with or without a diagnosis. - [Zones of Regulation for teenagers? A nervous system approach that teens take seriously](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/zones-of-regulation-for-teenagers-nervous-system-approach): Looking for a Zones of Regulation alternative for teenagers? A polyvagal-informed, hands-on way for secondary students to understand their state. - [How to Get the Most Out of Therapy](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/get-the-most-out-of-therapy): Practical ways to get the most out of counselling, from preparing for sessions to giving feedback. Online therapy across the UK and internationally. - [Polyvagal theory in the classroom: supporting dysregulated students](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/polyvagal-theory-in-the-classroom-dysregulated-students): How teachers can use a polyvagal-informed approach with dysregulated students in secondary school. Simple, practical steps for the classroom. - [Talking Isn’t Just Talking: Why Communication Doesn’t Always Mean Speaking](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/talking-isnt-just-talking): Communication is about far more than words. Many parents come to us saying: “We’ve talked about it a hundred times.” “My child won’t tell me what’s wrong.”… - [Emotional dysregulation in teens: the signs and what helps](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/emotional-dysregulation-in-teens-signs-and-what-helps): What emotional dysregulation looks like in teenagers, why it happens, and simple ways parents can help. A UK guide with a nervous system lens. - [Watoto Play Receives National Autistic Taskforce Founder’s Award to Launch Accessible Parent Wellbeing Programme Across Yorkshire](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/watoto-play-receives-national-autistic-taskforce-founders-award-to-launch-accessible-parent-wellbeing-programme-across-yorkshire): FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE Watoto Play Receives National Autistic Taskforce Founder’s Award to Launch Accessible Parent Wellbeing Programme Across Yorkshire… - [From Quiet Support to Official Partnership: Why Becoming a Patron and Children’s Mental Health Ambassador Matters](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/from-quiet-support-to-official-partnership-why-becoming-a-patron-and-childrens-mental-health-ambassador-matters): From Quiet Support to Official Partnership: Why Becoming a Patron and Children’s Mental Health Ambassador Matters Recently, I was honoured to be appointed… - [Polyvagal parenting: how to help a dysregulated teenager](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/polyvagal-parenting-dysregulated-teenager): A plain UK guide to polyvagal parenting. Spot your teen’s nervous system state, stay steady yourself, and connect before you correct. - [A No Filter Day – To Be Seen](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/a-no-filter-day-to-be-seen): A No Filter Day :To Be Seen Written by Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar 29th August 2025 Copyright® To be seen –no filter,no hiding,no more a mask. Just skin.Just… - [Everywhere and Nowhere: The Truth About Belonging](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/everywhere-and-nowhere-the-truth-about-belonging): How cinema, markets, festivals, and memory reveal the beauty of identity, difference, and connection. Written by Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar 26th August 2025… - [How Hard It Is To Do the Right Thing?](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/how-hard-it-is-to-do-the-right-thing): How Hard It Is to Do the Right Thing We like to believe that doing the right thing should be simple. If we’re good people – if we go to church, the mosque,… - [What Music Unlocks in Us](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/what-music-unlocks-in-us): When House Was God: On Music, Movement, and Holding the Aftermath In my 20s, I got lost in house music.Not just on nights out – I mean lost. In the rhythm.… - [Beyond the Four Horsemen: Why I Found Gottman’s Model a Bit Shamey (and What Helped Instead)](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/beyond-the-four-horsemen-why-i-found-gottmans-model-a-bit-shamey-and-what-helped-instead): Written by Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar. Copyright 2025 When I first came across the Gottman Institute’s “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” I appreciated the… - [To Be Loved](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/to-be-loved): Written by Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar © 4th June 2025 To Be Lovedsaid the fish Not by force,nor fear,nor need. But by a gentle driftof open seas,the tender… - [The Stuckness of Regret: Exploring Why Neurodivergent Minds Get Stuck – and How to Move Forward](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/the-stuckness-of-regret-exploring-why-neurodivergent-minds-get-stuck-and-how-to-move-forward): Table of Contents Add a header to begin generating the table of contents Written by Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar – this writing is for anyone weighed down by… - [Navigating a Relationship with an Autistic Partner or Child – Whether They’re Younger, a Teen, or an Adult: Understanding Dismissiveness and “Talking Over”.](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/navigating-a-relationship-with-an-autistic-partner-or-child-whether-theyre-younger-a-teen-or-an-adult-understanding-dismissiveness-and-talking-over): Navigating a Relationship with an Autistic Partner or Child – Whether They’re Younger, a Teen, or an Adult: Understanding Dismissiveness and “Talking… - [Why I Chose a Circle (And What It Means for Glad We Talked™)](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/why-i-chose-a-circle-and-what-it-means-for-glad-we-talked): Why I Chose a Circle (And What It Means for Glad We Talked™) Written by Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar When I was creating and designing Glad We Talked, every… - [Masculinity, Language, and the Stories We Tell Boys](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/masculinity-language-and-the-stories-we-tell-boys-and-masculine-youth): Masculinity, Language, and the Stories We Tell Boys By Yasmin Shaheen-Zaffar (This writing is accompanied by the artworks Three Boys Three Boys by… - [Unlearning Independence: Embracing Co-Regulation in a “Do-It-Yourself” Culture](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/unlearning-independence-embracing-co-regulation-in-a-do-it-yourself-culture): In Western societies – or shall I re-phrase that – modern times? We’re often taught that independence is the ultimate goal – “stand on your own two feet,”… - [What Are We Teaching Them? When Boys Learn to Pay for Connection and Girls Learn to Sell Their Feet at 13](https://gladwetalked.com/blog/what-are-we-teaching-them-when-boys-learn-to-pay-for-connection-and-girls-learn-to-sell-their-feet-at-13): Before Its Too Late: Understanding Sextortion,the Neurodivergent Brain & Starting the Conversation. Introduction: What happens when a teenage boy’s or… ## Optional - [Sitemap](https://gladwetalked.com/sitemap.xml) - [Terms](https://gladwetalked.com/terms) - [Privacy policy](https://gladwetalked.com/privacy)