Before We Call It Behaviour
Before We Call It Behaviour Children of colour, mixed-heritage identity, childhood trauma and those whose nervous-system state gets misunderstood A child raises their voice. Another avoids eye contact. One becomes very still; another walks out of the room. We may describe these moments as rude, defiant, aggressive, attention-seeking or disengaged. Yet behaviour is what we […]
When Nervous Systems Collide at Home
Looking beyond blame in children, teenagers and family relationships Taking Family Nervous-System Patterns to the Polyvagal Institute Gathering What Do I Mean by “Nervous Systems Collide”? Following One Family Cycle Behaviour Is Information, Not the Whole Story Power, Responsibility and Repair When a Child Moves Between Homes What Families Carry Across Generations Mapping the Cycle […]
Beyond “How Do You Feel?”
Why I Created the R.U.D Process® and What’s My State?® My Experience of Freeze The Demands Hidden Inside “How Do You Feel?” Why I Created the R.U.D Process® Why I Created What’s My State?® More Than Moving Towards a “Good” State How the Two Resources Connect Children Do Not Experience Their Nervous Systems in Isolation […]
Talking Isn’t Just Talking: Why Communication Doesn’t Always Mean Speaking
Communication is about far more than words. Many parents come to us saying: “We’ve talked about it a hundred times.” “My child won’t tell me what’s wrong.” “They just shut down.” “We can’t seem to communicate anymore.” But what if communication isn’t just about talking? What if communication starts long before words are spoken? And […]